this has happened personally to me a number of times. how i see it, you have a couple of options:
a.) STICK IT OUT: probably the most painful. if you really want to be the friend of the year or the person likes your best friend as well, you can let your friend have them and you can stick this one out. it hurts, but you will most likely get over it eventually. but if you take this you have to commit to it, it'd cause trouble to change your mind halfway through their relationship and will probably will not get you on your lover's good side. but this does avoid drama if you're the type of person who hates drama, but it will be painful for a period of time.
b.) NEITHER OF YOU TAKE IT: talk to your friend directly about the problem. yes, its a sacrafice on both of your parts, but there will be other people you love. its the best method if you really want to keep your friendship strong. you need to think whos more important in your life; your best friend or the one you love at the time. if your best friend instantly comes to mind and theyre willing to agree to this, then this may work for you.
c.)TAKE THE LOVER: warning! if you choose the person you love over you're best friend, they may be seriously hurt and you may lose them as a close friend! you also may get a bad reputation as a bad friend. but if your ok with those prices then go strait for the one you love
these are the three most common (but not only) solutions to this problem! leave a comment if you want an i hoped this helped!
~natalie :)
great ideas, but still wont help what im going through, thanks anyway
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