Heads up!

hello! just as a quick heads up, starting this friday may 25 (2012, for those who may not know the year and really should learn) my internet connection will be questionable, due to a vacation i'll be taking. that means i wont be able to check my emails or blog, and be unable to add new posts. so if you shoot me a comment or an email, it will be a while until i respond. in the few quick intervals of time in which i do have connection, i promise i'll do my best to get on here and/or check my emails. but fear not! i pinky promise i'll be back by either saturday, june 2, or sunday, june 3! one last quick news update: for all those kik fans, i have created one if you feel this easier to access me. my username is nat1198. so if you need personal tips or help or need someone to vent or talk to and dont like or dont have access to email, feel free to send me a message to me. thank you all soooooo much for all the support of this and i really hope i'm helping! love you all!
~natalie:)

i cut myself, but im looking to stop. it's a lot harder then it looks! any tips?

first of all let me congradulate you on taking that huge step to recovery in deciding you want to stop. it's not easy. i do have one tip, but it's not a garentee, but it has helped some people considerably. have you ever heard of the butterfly project?
       ok this is not mine; i didnt come up with it. i just saw it somewhere. i got this picture off of google images (i thought this looked nicer then me just typing it). but here it is. this has helped someone i know a great deal and i really hope it helps you. and if it doesnt, the only other tip i have is pure will power. you're stronger than you think. you're also more worth it then to do that to yourself. smile, because someone loves you. and if you really need a friend or someone to be there for you, my email is in my profile and in my "starting off!" post. i'd be happy to help. leave a comment if you'd like and i really hope this helps!
~natalie:)

i act really tough, but on the inside i'm really not. how do i let others in on that without appearing weak?

this is a pretty common problem for a lot of people including myself, so i'll tell you what i did/do. first off, i wouldnt just say that outloud, unless you talking to a bf/gf and/or a close friend. people may misunderstand you and think you're just saying that to get attention and think you dont mean it. show your depth in the details. for example. when hanging out with friends, just pause and look up at the sky. when they ask what you're doing, say, "nothing. i just like the clouds [or color of the sky if theres no clouds]".i'm not saying it has to be that specific quote. that was just an example. but small pauses to say something deep can show people that there's more to you then your rough exterior. something as simple as that can show you light and deep side with out sounding weak. leave a comment if you'd like and i really hope this helped!
~natalie :)

quick note!

i want to apologize ahead of time for any past, present, or future spelling and/or grammar mistakes! im normally alright with grammar, but i may as well be one of the worst spellers ever. i normally catch it in a proof read, but if i miss it, sorry! and thanks so much for the support!
~Natalie :)

my friend is seriously suicidal! help!

this is extremely seriouse. start by letting your friend know how much they mean to you and to others. give them a reason to live. next dont leave them alone. make sure someone is with them. dont instantly take away all sharp objects for this may make them feel like they are being treated like a child and just force them to think of creative ways of doing it. then get help! talk to some adult you can trust to help you. they may be pissed that you told someone, but you may have just saved their life, so just let them be mad. one day they'll be thankful. even if your friend is just showing warning signs (such as depression, joking about suicide [ex: talking about killing themselves then ending in "just kidding!"], expressing slight suicidal comment) no matter how big or small, dont ignore them. talk openly about suicide. make sure you tell your friend how much there is to live for. most of all, be there for them. good luck. leave a comment if you want and i really hope this helped!
~natalie :)

my parents want me to be a big moneymaking success, but i dont want to do any of the careers they want me to do. they keep pressuring me to change my mind. how can i convince them to accept me?

i know exactly how that feels. my mother went to college at 16 and is a doctor and my father is an engeneer. both very smart and successful, and both want my syblings and me to be the same way. i remember how disapointed my mother was when i told her i wasnt to interested in medicin like her. they would always tell me to be a doctor or a lawyer or something big that i had no interest in. luckily my parents support my dream of being a therapist (i know, shocker that that's what i want to be), but i can see how no all parents are like that. you just need to sit them down and say, "look, sorry but i'm not into that. im going to do my own thing.". if that doesnt work, just remeber: it's you're life. not your parents. dont let them force you into doing something you're going to be unhappy with for the rest of you're life. they may not like it, or you may feel bad about disapointing them, but when it comes time to seiously make a decision about your life, make sure it's something you want to do. not something they told you to do. it may be hard to believe, but them pushing you to be some super moneymaking success just means they really love you. theyre just trying to do whats best. but somethimes only you can make that decision. leave a comment if you want and i really hope this helps!
~natalie :)

i think my friend has an eating disorder! how can i help them?

this is deffinetly something really seriouse. first thing i would do is confront them head on about their problem. what ever you do, dont ignore it or pretend you didnt see it. talk to them about their illness and try to get as many details as possible that you could use to help them. next, strongly urge them to get help! find a support group with them. if you can and they are to afraid to go alone, offer to visit the support group with them. this may make it easier on them and more likely that they will go. if your friend still refuses to get help, tell someone. a teacher, a parent, a guidence counseler, some trusted adult who can help you on this. they may be mad for a while that you told someone, but weigh that to the fact that you could save their life by doing this, i hope you'll tell. but now more then ever, you need to be there for your friend. make sure they make a full recovery. leave a comment if you want and i really hope this helps!
~natalie :)